another quarter for lucy...

so i listen to adam corolla in the morning cuz i miss listening to him on love lines... of which, i remember the first day he was on the show with dr. drew cuz ricky rackman got into rehab.

at any rate, a discussion that came on the air was in terms of giving advice. he claims that he sucks at it because he was never given advice as a kid. basically, as he says, his parents never really cared to give him any useful advice and just through him out into the world to figure things out for himself. and from his own "work" ethic, he's done a pretty good job of getting through life by figuring things out on his own.

shift the spotlight on me. i wish that i can give advice. like adam, my parents never really gave me advice in the ways of the world. i mean some advice is like: "save your money." uh... "if you don't take good care of your car then you can't go anywhere." like "your car is your life. if it breaks down, then you won't have either." of course, this logic doesn't hold any water in san francisco where most everyone who lives in the city takes muni or bart everywhere. but i do wish i had someone i could've turned to when i was younger. therein lies my lack of advice - in getting... and giving.

so i suck at it. at the same time, i'm scared of giving bad advice too. all i do have is my own personal life experience. like if someone i love, like if any of my lil sisters is having a tough time getting through something, i don't know what to say most of the time. i just feel so inadequate as a KUYA when i can't give any advice, and the only thing i can give is just to let them know that i'm there for them.

right now, i'm in a great place, cuz i do have a friend who's EXCELLENT at giving advice. she says it in a way that doesn't feel like she's scolding you with "You HAVE to do this or HAVE to not do this." more like a supportive, you have to do what you feel is right in your heart. i hope that when i do have children, i will be able to be the parent that i will be able to know what to say by then.